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Do You Know Who You Are . . . ?

Who Are You and Where Are You From . . . ?

I love Caller ID. I especially like the version that lists the person’s name and where they are calling from.

When I was a kid we didn’t have Caller ID – we had to actually answer the phone to find out who was on the line. In those days (no cell phones) we only had one phone in the house. I can remember being clear across the house, hearing the phone ring, and sprinting to pick up the receiver before the second ring. We actually wanted the phone to ring, and we wanted to talk with whoever was on the other end.

Then came the days of telemarketing. People called us in the privacy of our homes – quite often at mealtimes – to try to sell us products and services that we had never considered and usually had no desire for. Our homes had been invaded. We were at war!

All of the rules for answering the phone changed! When I was a child we were trained to answer, “Flegal residence. Gary speaking,” because it was considered proper and polite. Now we started simply answering, “Hello,” and making the other person on the line tell us who they were before giving out any particulars about ourselves. The invasion made us struggle to regain our sense of privacy within our own homes.

This telephone invasion took over our phones and made the development of Caller ID extremely desirable. Now we could look at the screens on our phones and see the name of the person or company who was trying to reach us.


I get calls all the time from “Unknown Caller” and “Number Blocked” and “Toll Free.” I rarely even pick up the phone if any of those three call me because all of the people I want to talk to are known and don’t block their numbers. And you know what? None of my friends have toll-free numbers.

But the enemy was clever. Call Block was developed so people could hide their numbers and names. I get calls all the time from “Unknown Caller” and “Number Blocked” and “Toll Free.” I rarely even pick up the phone if any of those three call me because all of the people I want to talk to are known and don’t block their numbers. And you know what? None of my friends have toll-free numbers.

I have a theory about “Unknown Caller” and “Private Number.” I think some of these people have gone through so many life-changes that they really don’t know who they are anymore. But I believe that eventually those people are going to figure out who they are so they can post their name with their phone number.

Life’s a journey . . .

Remember to be good to you!

Copyright © 2013 by Gary L. Flegal, Ph.D.

Dr. Gary Flegal is a Behavioral Medicine and Health Specialist with a doctorate in “Health Education and Human Performance” from Michigan State University. He is an exciting and accomplished presenter and keynote speaker, presenting seminars for groups and companies on location and at conventions. His advanced training in stress management came to him while working in affiliation with the original Mind/Body Medical Institute at Harvard under the direction of Herbert Benson, M.D. and his staff. In addition to corporate presentations, Dr. Flegal keeps a busy schedule working with individual clients for a variety of stress-related issues, including anger management, quitting smoking, learning to relax and manage stress, and learning self-hypnosis.

Dr. Flegal’s other passion is magic. He has been a professional magician for over 30 years and continues practicing his art at every opportunity. These two passions work together beautifully as he illustrates stress management concepts with fun, visual, and “magical” demonstrations in his stress management workshops and seminars. It also allows him to share stress management with his magic audiences wherever he goes because “Laughter is the Best Medicine!” Gary is a Reiki Master and a Certified Consulting Hypnotist, certified by the National Guild of Hypnotists.

Dr. Flegal’s specialties include stress management, anger management, positive behavior change, insomnia, smoking cessation, and exercise physiology. For individual appointments, speaking engagements, or more information, contact Gary at Professional Stress Management Services in Nashville, Tennessee, at (615)812-7280 or through his Web site:

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